Kahalu'u - KEY Project - Keiki Self Defense

Welcome to KEY Project

The KEY Project multi-purpose community center is located next to Kahalu`u Regional Park and Kahalu`u Elementary School. KEY is an excellent setting for community gatherings, private parties, seminars, conferences, meetings and classes.


47-200 Waihee Rd.
Kaneohe, HI 96744


Keiki Self Defense - 10 Week Boot Camp starting June 1st

  • Jr. Keiki Self Defense (3-6yrs)

    • To Be Announced (Please contact Kimo or Am Kreis)

  • 7-12yrs - Keiki Self Defense

    • Saturday @ 1:00pm

What makes Keiki Self Defense - 10 Week Boot Camp different from other self defense programs?

Over the years, many families have been trained in our Keiki Self Defense program. A number of the kids were being bullied in school and their families were looking for ways to help their kids deal with that situation. Our approach is to teach our students realistic alternative methods when confronted with bullying behavior.

The Strategy

  • There are many layers to bullying behavior, and fighting should always be a last resort . Our mantra is: Avoid the fight at all costs.

  • If a bully just has it out for your child, and they start to push or hit your child, we tell our kids: You must defend yourself if attacked.

  • But fighting and bullying are different. Bullying usually starts off with verbal banter between kids, and when there are no personal boundaries, the line can get stepped over pretty easily and go way too far.

    • So, our first layer of bully prevention is having your child tell the other kid, “Hey man, I really don’t like that you called me ‘Mr. Potato Head’. My name is Keloa, What is your name? Where you from?” We teach your child to ask any number of questions to direct the conversation away from the “put down”. In other words, we tell the student: Talk to the Bully. Many times they may not realize you’re bothered by what they said. Talking to the bully lets your child set a boundary. Hey I don’t like that Please stop.

    • Our second layer is to report the situation to a responsible adult. If a week or two goes by and the bully keeps calling your child ‘Mr. Potato Head’, and it’s really bothering the child, we tell our students: Tell the teacher and/or another responsible adult, and get others involved. Getting the teacher involved is the consequence for the bully going past your personal boundaries. Sometimes getting a teacher involved may not be enough, you may need to get the Principle and/or the other kid’s parents involved.

      • Realize the school is not going to take sides by assuming that your kid is an angel and the other kid is the problem. The more common point of view is that kids are kids and we have no proof of who is to blame. HOWEVER the school has a zero tolerance policy for fighting.

    • The third layer is giving an ultimatum. Let the bully know that if he/she touches you, bumps into you, shoves you, calls you ‘Mr. Potato Head’ again, that means “you obviously don’t like me and you are saying that you want to fight me. So the next time you call me a bad name, that means you want to fight.” We tell our students that if the bully keeps going after being warned, they should: Tackle the Bully.

      • We do not want our kids to fight! BUT we do not want our kids to be verbally or physically abused, possibly for years, as the bully and your child may go to the same school for several years.

  • We teach our students that when they defend themselves, they should never punch, kick or hit the bully, just establish control and talk to them. That they should let the bully know that you will not let them up until the teacher gets there or when they promise to stop bothering you. In most cases, when this gets back to a school system, your child may get suspended as well as the bully, but having your kid stand-up for his/herself will give them confidence on how to handle future problems. You will have a better chance of avoiding suspension if you took the steps described above, and if you asked the school what steps they were taking to protect your child from bullies while advising the school of the steps you have done to address the situation..

    • Talk to the Bully

    • Talk to the Teacher

    • Talk to the Principle

    • Talk to the Parents of the Bully

  • In the most extreme cases, a bully may want to fight a second time. We instruct our kids on how to safely apply a Submission Move. In the class room, our students learn how “Tap Out” to let their opponent know they ‘surrender.’ We realize other kids don’t know how to do this, so we teach our students how apply the move slowly to an untrained opponent, how to negotiate with them till it hurts and the opponent (the untrained child) ‘surrenders’, and how to end the fight before there is serious injury to the untrained child.