Prepare your child for life.
Keiki Self Defense is designed to offer you and your child the techniques, strategy and plan to protect them selves from a physical altercation in a non-violent format. It is also designed for the school system where they may not be able to avoid a conflict, but we will teach your child the strategy to always be in the right. (Pono - “righteousness”)
KEIKI Self Defense
My child is being bullied at school!! What can I do as a parent to help them?
Each day, 10-year-old Keola asked his mom for more and more lunch money. Yet he seemed skinnier than ever and came home from school hungry. It turned out that Keola was handing his lunch money to a fifth-grader, who was threatening to beat him up if he didn't pay.
Kayla, 13, thought things were going well at her new school, since all the popular girls were being so nice to her. But then she found out that one of them had posted mean rumors about her. Kayla cried herself to sleep that night and started going to the nurse's office complaining of a stomachache to avoid the girls in study hall.
Effects of Bullying (https://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/stats.asp)
Students who experience bullying are at increased risk for poor school adjustment, sleep difficulties, anxiety, and depression.
Students who are both targets of bullying and engage in bullying behavior are at greater risk for both mental health and behavior problems than students who only bully or are only bullied.
Bullied students indicate that bullying has a negative effect on how they feel about themselves (19%), their relationships with friends and family and on their school work (14%), and physical health (9%).
Students who experience bullying are twice as likely as non-bullied peers to experience negative health effects such as headaches and stomachaches.
Youth who self-blame and conclude they deserved to be bullied are more likely to face negative outcomes, such as depression, prolonged victimization, and maladjustment.
Bullying and Suicide (https://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/stats.asp)
There is a strong association between bullying and suicide-related behaviors, but this relationship is often mediated by other factors, including depression, violent behavior, and substance abuse.
Students who bully others, are bullied, or witness bullying are more likely to report high levels of suicide-related behavior than students who report no involvement in bullying.
A meta-analysis found that students facing peer victimization are 2.2 times more likely to have suicide ideation and 2.6 times more likely to attempt suicide than students not facing victimization.
Students who are both bullied and engage in bullying behavior are the highest risk group for adverse outcomes.
The false notion that suicide is a natural response to being bullied has the dangerous potential to normalize the response and thus create copycat behavior among youth.
What is the real issue with Bullying as a kid?
The single biggest problem for kids is they are not taught how to deal with someone that doesn’t like them, picks on them and constantly bullied them at school, a place where they may not be able to just walk away or they can walk away for that day but the next day comes and they see them again and again.
How is Keiki Self Defense different from any other self Defense program?
There are many layers to bullying behavior, and fighting should always be a last resort . Our mantra is: Avoid the fight at all costs.
If a bully just has it out for your child, and they start to push or hit your child, we tell our kids: You must defend yourself if attacked.
But fighting and bullying are different. Bullying usually starts off with verbal banter between kids, and when there are no personal boundaries, the line can get stepped over pretty easily and go way too far.
So, our first layer of bully prevention is having your child tell the other kid, “Hey man, I really don’t like that you called me ‘Mr. Potato Head’. My name is Keloa, What is your name? Where you from?” We teach your child to ask any number of questions to direct the conversation away from the “put down”. In other words, we tell the student: Talk to the Bully. Many times they may not realize you’re bothered by what they said. Talking to the bully lets your child set a boundary. Hey I don’t like that Please stop.
Our second layer is to report the situation to a responsible adult. If a week or two goes by and the bully keeps calling your child ‘Mr. Potato Head’, and it’s really bothering the child, we tell our students: Tell the teacher and/or another responsible adult, and get others involved. Getting the teacher involved is the consequence for the bully going past your personal boundaries. Sometimes getting a teacher involved may not be enough, you may need to get the Principle and/or the other kid’s parents involved.
Realize the school is not going to take sides by assuming that your kid is an angel and the other kid is the problem. The more common point of view is that kids are kids and we have no proof of who is to blame. HOWEVER the school has a zero tolerance policy for fighting.
The third layer is giving an ultimatum. Let the bully know that if he/she touches you, bumps into you, shoves you, calls you ‘Mr. Potato Head’ again, that means “you obviously don’t like me and you are saying that you want to fight me. So the next time you call me a bad name, that means you want to fight.” We tell our students that if the bully keeps going after being warned, they should: Tackle the Bully.
We do not want our kids to fight! BUT we do not want our kids to be verbally or physically abused, possibly for years, as the bully and your child may go to the same school for several years.
We teach our students that when they defend themselves, they should never punch, kick or hit the bully, just establish control and talk to them. That they should let the bully know that you will not let them up until the teacher gets there or when they promise to stop bothering you. In most cases, when this gets back to a school system, your child may get suspended as well as the bully, but having your kid stand-up for his/herself will give them confidence on how to handle future problems. You will have a better chance of avoiding suspension if you took the steps described above, and if you asked the school what steps they were taking to protect your child from bullies while advising the school of the steps you have done to address the situation..
Talk to the Bully
Talk to the Teacher
Talk to the Principle
Talk to the Parents of the Bully
In the most extreme cases, a bully may want to fight a second time. We instruct our kids on how to safely apply a Submission Move. In the class room, our students learn how “Tap Out” to let their opponent know they ‘surrender.’ We realize other kids don’t know how to do this, so we teach our students how apply the move slowly to an untrained opponent, how to negotiate with them till it hurts and the opponent (the untrained child) ‘surrenders’, and how to end the fight before there is serious injury to the untrained child.
Jiu-Jitsu vs other Martial Arts
Most martial arts programs rely on sticking the aggressor with Punches, Kicks, Throws, Dirty Fighting strategies or even weapons to “win” a fight. Keiki Self Defense is built on the foundation of Gracie Jiu-Jitsu / Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu which uses fight science and leverage based movements to control and de-escalate a bad situation.
Besides learning and achieving great self defense, coordination, flexibility, speed, and endurance, and strength, our signature program helps kids to focus and concentrate. The kids learn respect, honor, integrity, helping team mates, and being reminded to help their families, behave in school, and to always try to do the right things.
HEALTH & FITNESS:
The rise in child hood obesity in America has soared. Kids need to get off of their cell phones, computers, I-pads, and video games. They need to get off the couch and learn fun combative sports and fun reality based self defense that they can use to be safe, in a fun and safe environment.
Kids become disciplined. The discipline they learn helps them to achieve goals they want to achieve and great things they never imagined they could achieve.
Your child’s confidence will rise to the top. The child will be able to know in their heart and mind that the bully is no real threat. Your child will be ready to stop the bully and resume his/her education, and school activities and life without worry.
PERSONAL ACHIEVEMENT :
Your child will start to feel great about their new found skills, and coping tools. To them they feel they have new found Super powers :-). But the reality is they are learning to handle bad situations with difficult people.
THE BEST LIFE SAVING GIFT FOR YOUR CHILD:
Give your child the gift of confidence and be able to survive and thrive.
2-Part Strategy for Success :
Part 1 - The physical techniques and “How to” movements to get into the most advantageous position to not get punched or kicked and control a situation. This also build self confidence knowing what to do, how to do it, and having a game plan when things go wrong with the social strategy.
Part 2 - The social strategies to avoid bullying when a they are in a school environment, and can not simply walk away. Our strategy teaches kids how to set verbal and physical boundaries. How to get teachers involved, even moving up hierarchy of the school by getting the principle and parents involved. As a last resort how to physically protect your keiki in or out of the School environment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the class structure like?
The entire course contains several major lessons a lessons will be taught each week followed by reflex development drills. Students will also go through a rapid review where they are expected to practice previously learned techniques.
What gear/attire do I need to wear?
No special gear is required for purchase however we do recommend wearing a rash guard or t-shirt and long workout pants or surf short.
Do I need to be in shape, athletic, or flexible? Will this really help me defend myself?
Unlike other martial arts where size and athleticism play a large role, Jiu-Jitsu was developed to allow the smaller and weaker practitioners to excel through the use of technique and leverage against a larger opponent. Techniques taught are designed to be effective for the average joe including those who are out of shape, lack flexibility, and are non athletic.
What if I can’t make all 10 consecutive weeks?
We highly recommend not missing a class as the techniques taught each week build upon each other. However, If you are unable to make it to one of the classes within the scheduled 10 weeks you will be allowed the opportunity to finish the class you missed the next time the course runs at no extra charge to you.
I don't want to get punched or kicked while sparring, will I get hurt?
Jiu-Jistu is a grappling art (translated as "the gentle art"). As with any sport, injuries occur but are never due to striking techniques. We cannot guarantee that you will not get hurt during the course however, the chances of you getting injured are very low as we do not require our students to participate in live sparring with one another.
How much does it cost? How do the payments work?
The entire course is $185/10 week course which comes out to be $18.50 per hr. class. We accept debit/credit or cash. There are no other registration fees or membership dues in comparison to many other fitness clubs or gyms. You can register today at
Can I bring a friend?
Yes! We’d like to encourage you to invite your friends and take the course together. Having friends in class makes it more fun.
HOW TO GET STARTED
Instructor: Kimo Kreis
Who: All kids 6-12 years old
When: 10 Consecutive Sundays (June 1st - Aug 3rd)
KEY Projects - Kahaluu
47-200 Waihee Rd.
Kaneohe, HI 96744
Time: Saturday @ 1-2pm