Prepare your child for life.
Keiki Self Defense is designed to off you and your child the techniques to protect them selves from a physical altercation in a non-violent format. It is also designed for the school system where they may not be able to avoid a conflict but will have a strategy to always be in the right.
KEIKI Self Defense
My child is being bullied at school!! What can I do as a parent to help them?
Each day, 10-year-old Keola asked his mom for more and more lunch money. Yet he seemed skinnier than ever and came home from school hungry. It turned out that Keola was handing his lunch money to a fifth-grader, who was threatening to beat him up if he didn't pay.
Kayla, 13, thought things were going well at her new school, since all the popular girls were being so nice to her. But then she found out that one of them had posted mean rumors about her. Kayla cried herself to sleep that night and started going to the nurse's office complaining of a stomachache to avoid the girls in study hall.
Effects of Bullying (https://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/stats.asp)
Students who experience bullying are at increased risk for poor school adjustment, sleep difficulties, anxiety, and depression.
Students who are both targets of bullying and engage in bullying behavior are at greater risk for both mental health and behavior problems than students who only bully or are only bullied.
Bullied students indicate that bullying has a negative effect on how they feel about themselves (19%), their relationships with friends and family and on their school work (14%), and physical health (9%).
Students who experience bullying are twice as likely as non-bullied peers to experience negative health effects such as headaches and stomachaches.
Youth who self-blame and conclude they deserved to be bullied are more likely to face negative outcomes, such as depression, prolonged victimization, and maladjustment.
Bullying and Suicide (https://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/stats.asp)
There is a strong association between bullying and suicide-related behaviors, but this relationship is often mediated by other factors, including depression, violent behavior, and substance abuse.
Students who bully others, are bullied, or witness bullying are more likely to report high levels of suicide-related behavior than students who report no involvement in bullying.
A meta-analysis found that students facing peer victimization are 2.2 times more likely to have suicide ideation and 2.6 times more likely to attempt suicide than students not facing victimization.
Students who are both bullied and engage in bullying behavior are the highest risk group for adverse outcomes.
The false notion that suicide is a natural response to being bullied has the dangerous potential to normalize the response and thus create copycat behavior among youth.
What is the real issue with Bullying as a kid?
The single biggest problem for kids is they are not taught how to deal with someone that doesn’t like, picks on and constantly bullies them at school, a place where they may not be able to just walk away or they can walk away for that day but the next day comes and they see them again and again.
How is Keiki Self Defense different from any other self Defense program?
Over the years many families have trained with Keiki Self Defense program with K-Team. We have had many of our kids get bullied in school before and after starting the problem. And our approach to dealing with this issue address the real problems.
Their are many layers to bullying and fighting should always be a last resort . Avoiding the fight at all costs, is our mantra.
If a bully just has it out for your child and they start to push or hit your child we always as tell our kids. You must defend your self if attacked.
But fighting and bullying are slightly different. Bullying usually starts off the talking banter between kids. And when their are no boundaries the line can get stepped over pretty easily and go way to far.
So our first layer of bully prevention is just having your kid tell the other “Hay man, I really don’t like that you called me Mr. Potato Head. My name is Keloa, What is your name? Where you from? (any number of question that misdirect the conversation away the put down. So Talk to the Bully, many times they may just not realize your bothered by what they said. Talking to the bully is where we set a boundary, (Hey I don’t like that Please stop)
The 2nd layer, So maybe after a week or two the bully keeps calling your kid Mr. Potato Head and it’s really bothering them. The next step is to get a teacher involved. Tell an Adult get others involved. (Getting the teacher involved is the consequence for going past your personal boundaries.) Sometimes getting a teacher involved may not be enough you may need to get a principle evolved and the other kids parents enveloped.
Also realize the school is not going to take sides. As in your kid is an angel and the other kid is the problem. And usually will have a point of view is that kids are kids, we have no proof. BUT we have a zero tolerance policy for fighting.
3rd layer, Giving ultimatum. let the Bully know that if he touches you, bumps into you, shoves you call you Mr. Potato head again means that you obviously don’t like me and that you are saying that you want to fight me. So the next time you call me a bad name that means you want to fight. So if the bully keeps going, we tell our kids to Tackle the Bully.
We do not want our kids to fight! AND we do not want our kids to be verbally abused for possibly years on end as the bully and your kid may go to the same school.
When fighting never punch, kick or hit the bully, just establish control and talk to them. Let them know that you will not let them up until the teacher gets there and they promise to stop bothering you. For most cases when this gets back to a school system your child may get suspended as well as the bully, but having your kid stand-up for themselves will give them the confidence to control future problems.
In the most extreme cases where a bully wants to fight a 2nd time. We do instruct our kids to apply submission move. In the class room we have the kids “Tap Out” and we realize that other kids don’t know how to do this. So we have them apply the move slowly and negotiate with them till it hurts.
Jiu-Jitsu vs other Martial Arts
Most martial arts programs rely on sticking the aggressor with Punches, Kicks, Throws, Dirty Fighting strategies or even weapons to “win” a Fight. Keiki Self Defense is built on the foundation of Gracie Jiu-Jitsu / Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu which uses fight science, leverage based movement to control and de-escalate a bad situation.
Besides learning and achieving great self defense, coordination, flexibility, speed, and endurance, and strength, our signature program helps kids to focus and concentrate. The kids learn respect, honor, integrity, helping team mates, and being reminded to help their families, behave in school, and to always try to do the right things.
HEALTH & FITNESS:
The rise in child hood obesity in America has soared. Kids need to get off of their cell phones, computers, I-pads, and video games. They need to get off the couch and learn fun combative sports and fun reality based self defense that they can use to be safe, in a fun and safe environment.
Kids become disciplined. The discipline they learn helps them to achieve goals they want to achieve and great things they never imagined they could achieve.
Your child’s confidence will rise to the top. The child will be able to know in their heart and mind that the bully is no real threat. Your child will be ready to stop the bully and resume his/her education, and school activities and life without worry.
PERSONAL ACHIEVEMENT :
Your child will start to feel great about their new found skills, and coping tools. To them they feel they have new found Super powers :-). But the reality is they are learning to handle bad situations with difficult people.
THE BEST LIFE SAVING GIFT FOR YOUR CHILD:
Give your child the gift of confidence and be able to survive and thrive.t to Expect.
2-Part Strategy for Success :
Part 1 - The physical techniques and “How to” movements to get into the most advantageous position to not get punched or kicked and control a situation.
Part 2 - The social strategies to avoid bullying when a they are in a school environment and can not simply walk away. Our strategy teaches kids how to set verbal and physical boundaries. How to get teachers involved, even moving up hierarchy of the school by getting the principle and parents involved. As a last resort how to physically protect your keiki in or out of the School environment.